:: I'm wondering how people seem get it all done. Is it an illusion that you're all so productive?
:: I'm feeling overwhelmed by it all.
:: I keep telling my husband, as I have for months now, that the upkeeping of our home, with two little ones tugging on my all day, feels like one step forward, two steps back.
:: There's so much I'd like to do to improve my home and garden, but just keeping up with the basic maintenance is a challenge.
:: I'd like to finish painting the kitchen, but I first need to catch up on the dishes.
:: My garden desperately needs to be weeded.
:: I have so much I'd like to do with my shop, but just don't have the time to focus.
:: I have three loads of laundry, unfolded, on my couch. Like always.
:: Our spare bathroom is disgusting and needs a major scrub.
:: The microwave, it's gross in there.
:: And, and, and...
:: I'm feeling like I need to either: 1) Lower my expectations. 2) Rearrange my priorities. Or, 3) Make some changes to become more productive.
All you amazing moms, wives, women out there, how do you get it all done?
6 comments:
Oh Amber, I feel your pain. But I have things to tell you : nobody gets it all done at the same time. When you focus your energy to something or someone, you can't be focusing it to something or someone else. When my two boys were younger, I didn't get much anything done at all. That's just the way it is. I prefered to focus on them instead of on something less important. Your children will remember from their childhood that you took care of them, played with them, taught them things, not that your house was clean or laundry folded.
And if you think everyone can do it all, you are fooled by appearances. What you see of people online is the top of the iceberg. What is shown on purpose.
People who manage to get it all done, either don't have children, or have a nanny, or as I was saying first, children are a little older. My boys are now 8 & 10 & it's been a couple of years that my life feels more stable. They're more independant, don't require my attention 100% of the time.
I hope this is not discouraging, because my message is a message of hope. It'll get better & better as they grow older. Your sons are both so young. Enjoy them now, for they don't stay this young for long.
Sending you all my love oxoxo
I don't get it all done at all. My thoughts and concerns are exactly like what you have written here. In particular, I really have no idea how people manage to make home improvements, especially while children are young. I'm trying not to cRe so much.
I think the person who can 'do it all' is an illusion. We all make small sacrifices to get through the day; the pile of dishes for a day of playing with the kids, a spotless kitchen while the kids watched a movie. It certainly gets easier when the kids are older and can entertain themselves during your task. At 4 and 2 my girls play outside while I tend the garden. We have also sacrificed weekend family time so that I watch the kids while my husband does outdoor projects. Sometimes things are dirty for longer than I would like but it eventually gets cleaned.
It will get easier. Hang in there.
I do it all. It's easy.
Just kidding. My grandma once said to me, "everything in its season" and I have to remind myself of that all the time. Right now you are not in the do it all season. You are in the good mommy season.
You know I don't but I do try. I do laundry while the boys and I watch a movie or listen to books on tape together. I clean one room at a time so if it all isn't done then I know at least one room is clean. The boys have started to help and know to stay out once something is clean. I put a load of laundry in the washer in the morning and the dishes get run at the same time. if its nice outside I hang the clothes out while the boys play and then weed the garden afterward.
I can so relate to this, but the get-it-all-done crowd experience overwhelm too. It's all perception, and when you're standing in a pile of laundry while your work collects dust and your "me time" has become a thing of of the past, your perception is that nobody is as unproductive as you are. I feel that way myself a lot of the time, especially between working my day job and trying to grow a photography business and start school and still see my family enough to remember what they look like. Adjusting priorities is certainly a big piece of this puzzle, but even bigger is to cut yourself some slack. Spend your days in such a way that when you're 80, you'll be grateful for the choices you made.
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